In defence of fake niceness
I know a lot of people feel that they'd rather be around authentic jerks than fake nice people- I used to be one of them. One of the top reasons I hear given is that fake nice people are just waiting to stab you in the back. That may be true sometimes, but what if we give people the benefit of the doubt an assume that rather than being inevitable backstabbers, at least some of those fake nice people are genuinely trying to be nice, but it's a challenge for them and they're faking it til they make it? And yes, some of them can be grating sometimes. But I've come to find it less offensive than the people who don't try to not be asses.
posted by gojirama @ 1:34 PM
4 Comments:
I think what you call fake nice I woudl call civil.
Fake nice is a person who hates you being all "Hi how was your weekenend? You should come out with us Friday Night"
Civil is "morning"
YES, Melissa! CIVIL! Part of living in a society is being decent to people EVEN IF WE DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. Sometimes that WILL be forced.
agreed- besides- you can be "real" and still be polite!
Civil is fantastic.
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