In defence of fake niceness
I know a lot of people feel that they'd rather be around authentic jerks than fake nice people- I used to be one of them. One of the top reasons I hear given is that fake nice people are just waiting to stab you in the back. That may be true sometimes, but what if we give people the benefit of the doubt an assume that rather than being inevitable backstabbers, at least some of those fake nice people are genuinely trying to be nice, but it's a challenge for them and they're faking it til they make it? And yes, some of them can be grating sometimes. But I've come to find it less offensive than the people who don't try to not be asses.